
I’m going to take a break from my Meet the Breeds posts (1, 2, 3) to address something that was a major issue back in my non-stop traveling days.
(Yes, they’re done. I’ve been in NYC for a few months now. I’m establishing a company. Travel will always be part of my life, but as my 20′s wind up and my 30′s begin, my travels will be much more focused.)
Here’s a statement I’ve heard over and over:
I’m soooo jealous of how much you get to travel. I wish I got to do that.
No, you don’t. If you did, you would.
Life is about priorities. And for whatever reason, you’ve chosen other priorities. I do not begrudge you for that. Not in the slightest. Especially if your priorities have involved children that you’ve brought into the world.
Here’s why you don’t want to travel like I did:
You like home.
I’ve had my own lease on an apartment once in my life. In North Hollywood, CA, way back when, I had a month-to-month lease for two months. Other than that, I’ve lived at my parents’ places, other family’s places (such as my relatives in Long Island, where I’m currently staying the weekend), along with living in dorms, bunks, sublets, CouchSurfing, hotels, hostels and other forms of transitory housing. I’ve never had the Back to the Future poster adorning my place that I dream of. Wall postings have consisted of either what others have put up in their abodes or me sticky-tacking AAA maps.
There are many sacrifices I’ve made to travel as much as I have. If you want me to detail them, I will, but the long and short is that it becomes increasingly difficult to make and maintain strong relationships when you’re not locationally close to the same people.
You aren’t willing to settle for anything less than the best.
There’s nothing wrong with luxury travel, but if you’re more 99% than 1%, chances are you can’t do it all the time, or at least not for very long stretches of time. I am blessed with the ability to not spend much money. Strike that. I’m cursed with the inability to spend money. Not staying at hotels, not eating at restaurants and not buying souvenirs was natural to me. Other people enjoy nice thread-count sheets, indulging in fine meals and bringing something back home to give to those they love. None of those were necessary to me. That, along with increasing amounts of CouchSurfing and hitchhiking allowed my travels to cost less than a life back home would’ve. How many people can say that their ‘vacation’ is cheaper than their “regular life”?
Part of this also goes back to the ‘home’ idea. People like using their towels and sleeping in their bed. Anything different makes them uncomfortable. This isn’t good or bad, but it certainly can inhibit enjoying traveling.
You refuse to do research or change your view on ‘travel’.
In our last topic of #TTOT, we covered how to keep travel in your life if you aren’t always on the road. The consistent conclusion was that travel is a state of mind. If you feel like you want to travel, but can’t, you’re just wrong. Change your perception of travel. Maybe you really can’t leave the country. I won’t say that you can run off backpacking without knowing your situation, but I can guarantee that there are museums or day trips where you live that would be of interest. Travel is a mindset. If you want to travel, you’ll do it, even within existing limitations.
Moral of the story:
If you really don’t want to travel, you have reasons. If they’re about fear rather than contentment, perhaps you need to conquer them someday. But if you do want to travel, stop making excuses; start finding solutions.
Life’s easy: make goals, then figure out how to work within your life’s limitations to get as close to those aims as possible.
Now get to it.

Tomorrow, the last of my Meet the Breeds posts.